the boy’s got a lot to learn….

Commenting in 1939 on the fact that her fiance, Robert Taylor, at 28, was four years younger than she, which raised eyebrows then, Stanwyck said: “The boy`s got a lot to learn and I`ve got a lot to teach”.

Florentine Flogging….

In an effort to expand & better my skills, I often scope out good instructional videos on the web (wink).  I came across this instructional on 6 point Florentine Flogging that I think is pretty outstanding.  Hope you enjoy as well:

The Ropes…

Who knew 12 feet of rope and a square knot could be so much wicked fun?  Ms. Kate has always been intrigued by rope play, and now she knows why.  Lover and I had the pleasure of attending our first bondage 101 class.  The class went over the basics of safety, types of rope and a few basic techniques.  Needless to say, I’m hooked.  The Knotty Boys latest offering will soon be on it’s way (come on payday!).

So what is it exactly that Kate likes abut this particular kink?  To be honest, I’m still working that out.  Perhaps it’s the idea of “forced” submission to another.  Being rendered helpless, subject to to the whims of my lover (yum).  hrrmmm….I’ll be giving this more thought.  More to come later…..

Overwhelmed….

There is a sense of being erotically overwhelmed that comes along with being restrained, and many women find it quite passionate. Women are encouraged to understand themselves as objects of desire, and through bondage and restraint, there’s an acting out of that.

~ Carol Queen

Literal

You know you have a Dominant streak when you take figurative speech literally:

“He wears the skirt in the relationship.” <——- with matching ruffled panties & a tiara.

“She walks all over him.” <—–with soft soled boots.

“He’s Whipped.”<——-with a paddle.

I could go on, but I think you get the point.

Sex. in America…

“Sex. In America an obsession. In other parts of the world a fact.”

Marlene Dietrich

A rose by any other name…..

“Yes, I now feel that it was then on that evening of sweet dreams- that the very first dawn of human love burst upon the icy night of my spirit. Since that period I have never seen nor heard your name without a shiver half of delight, half of anxiety.”

~~ Edgar Allan Poe

I have to be honest–most scene names, particularly Femdomme names tend to illicit my inner snark.  Perhaps it’s because I have a hard time taking myself that seriously.  I could never insist that someone refer to me as “Goddess” without snickering.  I understand that a scene name can help set a  mood or further a fantasy.  But to insist that you be treated with absolute devotion and reverence (even outside the dungeon) just because you’re a “Domme” is redonculous.   In fact, I tend to think it denotes a certain lack of confidence.  And honestly, what’s so dominant about that?  Plain Kate suites me just fine, thank you.

When I’m bad….

“When I’m good I’m very, very good but when I’m bad I’m better.”
Mae West.

A Little restraint…

Earlier today my younger sister pointed out a Craigslist.org ad involving a submissive male and house cleaning. Essentially he indicated he would pay a woman to “make” him clean her house. All she need do is lounge around in a lace camisole & panties & order him about. Given the current state of my apartment, that sounds so appealing to me.

I was thinking if I had a sub, I wouldn’t be sure what to do with him. Don’t get me wrong, in theory it seems great. But given my lack of experience, I’m not sure he would get a lot of pleasure from our exchange.

The first time I had the pleasure of putting someone in restraints, I “stuttered” a bit. I hadn’t thought much about what I was going to do beyond restraining him. There he was, beautiful, prone…waiting. I had him right where I wanted him, and all I could say was, “what the fuck do I do now??”

Thankfully he saw the humor in it too.

Pagan Poetry..