“You know you don’t have to act with me, Steve. You don’t have to say anything, and you don’t have to do anything. Not a thing. Oh, maybe just whistle. You know how to whistle, don’t you, Steve? You just put your lips together and blow.“

~~Lauren Bacall

I thought I’d take time out to clarify a few things:

1. Yes, I am indeed a kinky girl, I identify as sensual switch  and have been loosely involved with the local kink community for several years.

2. I do not Domme professionally–nor do I plan too.  My play has been limited to a very few  that I loved and trusted deeply.  I do not play publicly and have absolutely no interest in partners outside my current relationship.

3. I am NOT poly (see above).  Please do not message me with proposals to meet you and your primary, secondary or any love for that matter.

4.  I don’t care how experienced and skilled you are.  I’m not looking for, nor do I need a “mentor” (so fuck off already)

5.  While I will not post an extensive list of my kinks and skills here, know that I have them–and that I am talented (if I don’t say so myself).

Thank you for your kind attention!

While consent is a defining element, I believe there is a deeper aspect found in a submissive’s need to feed and satisfy a dominant’s need. The mutual getting off on it enables a particular balance that makes the whole thing click. A masochist who’s just in it for themselves may be a nice diversion on occasion, but I don’t view that as attractive beyond the casual. Nor do I see a pure submissive who is unable or unwilling to match my sadism as overly appealing, though I might otherwise enjoy their devotion. At this stage in my own exploration, it definitely takes a very particular balance in order for me to view the big picture as sustainable.

“It’s not about getting them to whimper with a whip, it’s about getting them to crawl happily at a glance……”

Commenting in 1939 on the fact that her fiance, Robert Taylor, at 28, was four years younger than she, which raised eyebrows then, Stanwyck said: “The boy`s got a lot to learn and I`ve got a lot to teach”.

In an effort to expand & better my skills, I often scope out good instructional videos on the web (wink).  I came across this instructional on 6 point Florentine Flogging that I think is pretty outstanding.  Hope you enjoy as well:

Who knew 12 feet of rope and a square knot could be so much wicked fun?  Ms. Kate has always been intrigued by rope play, and now she knows why.  Lover and I had the pleasure of attending our first bondage 101 class.  The class went over the basics of safety, types of rope and a few basic techniques.  Needless to say, I’m hooked.  The Knotty Boys latest offering will soon be on it’s way (come on payday!).

So what is it exactly that Kate likes abut this particular kink?  To be honest, I’m still working that out.  Perhaps it’s the idea of “forced” submission to another.  Being rendered helpless, subject to to the whims of my lover (yum).  hrrmmm….I’ll be giving this more thought.  More to come later…..

There is a sense of being erotically overwhelmed that comes along with being restrained, and many women find it quite passionate. Women are encouraged to understand themselves as objects of desire, and through bondage and restraint, there’s an acting out of that.

~ Carol Queen

You know you have a Dominant streak when you take figurative speech literally:

“He wears the skirt in the relationship.” <——- with matching ruffled panties & a tiara.

“She walks all over him.” <—–with soft soled boots.

“He’s Whipped.”<——-with a paddle.

I could go on, but I think you get the point.

“Sex. In America an obsession. In other parts of the world a fact.”

Marlene Dietrich