A rose by any other name…..

“Yes, I now feel that it was then on that evening of sweet dreams- that the very first dawn of human love burst upon the icy night of my spirit. Since that period I have never seen nor heard your name without a shiver half of delight, half of anxiety.”

~~ Edgar Allan Poe

I have to be honest–most scene names, particularly Femdomme names tend to illicit my inner snark.  Perhaps it’s because I have a hard time taking myself that seriously.  I could never insist that someone refer to me as “Goddess” without snickering.  I understand that a scene name can help set a  mood or further a fantasy.  But to insist that you be treated with absolute devotion and reverence (even outside the dungeon) just because you’re a “Domme” is redonculous.   In fact, I tend to think it denotes a certain lack of confidence.  And honestly, what’s so dominant about that?  Plain Kate suites me just fine, thank you.

A Little restraint…

Earlier today my younger sister pointed out a Craigslist.org ad involving a submissive male and house cleaning. Essentially he indicated he would pay a woman to “make” him clean her house. All she need do is lounge around in a lace camisole & panties & order him about. Given the current state of my apartment, that sounds so appealing to me.

I was thinking if I had a sub, I wouldn’t be sure what to do with him. Don’t get me wrong, in theory it seems great. But given my lack of experience, I’m not sure he would get a lot of pleasure from our exchange.

The first time I had the pleasure of putting someone in restraints, I “stuttered” a bit. I hadn’t thought much about what I was going to do beyond restraining him. There he was, beautiful, prone…waiting. I had him right where I wanted him, and all I could say was, “what the fuck do I do now??”

Thankfully he saw the humor in it too.

Blissfully Yours…

I created this blog primarily as a means of documenting my trek into the wonderful and weird world of BDSM.  I tend to view this as a repository for my thoughts, feelings and experiences within the realm of kink.  Anything written here is based on personal experience and opinion and should be taken as such.

A bit about me: I identify as a sensual Switch (I have no real interest in being a Pro-Domme, though I’d like to think I’d be damn good at it).  Though lately I prefer to wield the whip, I’m very happy to take it as well (wink, wink).  Physically, I’m slender, fair skinned, dark eyed and currently, auburn haired.  My “predilections” include, but aren’t limited to: Domination, occasional submission, corseting, rope bondage, biting, spanking, whipping and then some (yum… getting all worked up and tingly just thinking about it). I’m quiet, intense, intelligent and I thoroughly enjoy being wicked.  Think about that a bit-I promise, it will make you happy.

While this is essentially a journal of my experiences and thoughts, I also plan to pepper it with excerpts and reviews of favorite books, sex positive sites, and just a bit of erotica.  My hope is to create something that is compelling, entertaining, irreverent (because sex is such serious stuff) and incredibly sensual.  Tall order… but I guess I’ll just have to find a way (smiles wryly).  Care to join me?

It’s only kinky the first time you do it….. ;0)