Mutual Need….

While consent is a defining element, I believe there is a deeper aspect found in a submissive’s need to feed and satisfy a dominant’s need. The mutual getting off on it enables a particular balance that makes the whole thing click. A masochist who’s just in it for themselves may be a nice diversion on occasion, but I don’t view that as attractive beyond the casual. Nor do I see a pure submissive who is unable or unwilling to match my sadism as overly appealing, though I might otherwise enjoy their devotion. At this stage in my own exploration, it definitely takes a very particular balance in order for me to view the big picture as sustainable.

Crawl…

“It’s not about getting them to whimper with a whip, it’s about getting them to crawl happily at a glance……”

The Ropes…

Who knew 12 feet of rope and a square knot could be so much wicked fun?  Ms. Kate has always been intrigued by rope play, and now she knows why.  Lover and I had the pleasure of attending our first bondage 101 class.  The class went over the basics of safety, types of rope and a few basic techniques.  Needless to say, I’m hooked.  The Knotty Boys latest offering will soon be on it’s way (come on payday!).

So what is it exactly that Kate likes abut this particular kink?  To be honest, I’m still working that out.  Perhaps it’s the idea of “forced” submission to another.  Being rendered helpless, subject to to the whims of my lover (yum).  hrrmmm….I’ll be giving this more thought.  More to come later…..

Overwhelmed….

There is a sense of being erotically overwhelmed that comes along with being restrained, and many women find it quite passionate. Women are encouraged to understand themselves as objects of desire, and through bondage and restraint, there’s an acting out of that.

~ Carol Queen